Facebook is not the place to really have huge discussions, so I decided to move my reply here. If you're not a FB friend of mine, then my reply might not make a ton of sense. I am planning to write a longer, more detailed response to this issue later.
For those who were in the conversation, here is my take on some of the discussions from yesterday.
So I have purposefully not responded to this post because most of the time I believe the saying, “it is better to remain silent and thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt” is truly the best way to go. I slept on it and feel that I do want to say a few things.
First of all, I read a blog post yesterday, and I like it. So, I posted it on my wall. There was no motive behind it other than sharing information that I liked. I know Facebook is not the platform to debate hot topics, and I am honestly shocked at the response the post got. Controversy, shamming, judging, etc., was truly NOT my intent. That being said, the post struck a nerve and I want to address that.
I totally agree that female pornography has become more and more of an issue over the past 10+ years. It is something that is just as dangerous to our marriages and families as “male” porn. I don’t think, however, understanding of what makes things “porn” for women, or even talking about it has been addressed much in the church. I think a lot of women (especially younger Christian women) really don’t even know it is “bad” for them—or how our American culture has influenced us. (I can say that tt has influenced me more than I realize, at least.) I do believe there is a problem that we need to address.
HOWEVER, I do not think it is my personal right as a Christian to condemn each and every women on the planet. I believe there is ONE Judge and that is Jesus Christ. I can merely play the part of a witness. A witness is called to a specific case. I don’t just walk into any courtroom and say I am here to be a witness against the accused. However, if I have involvement in the case—I know the people, the actions, etc.—I can then witness to the issue at hand. Basically, I feel I am called to correct, encourage, and teach the people in my sphere of influence. I need to have a relationship with them for the correction to be heard in a redemptive way. Why should I listen to some random person that doesn't know me or my situation or history? That is why we have the most impact with people that know us, and we know them.
Yes, I can also do my part corporately by taking a stand and not putting my time/money into things like this movie., And I can lovingly engaging those I know by explaining why I don't want to see it. Better yet, I can proactively give people a choice. Where are all the believers that are ALSO amazing artists, musicians, movie-makers, or fiction authors? Am I trying to use my God-given talents to offer alternatives?
Look, I am not perfect, nor will I ever be. I have read and seen things I regret. I, like, oh, pretty much everyone, have my blind spots to my own sin. I need people to be a witness for Jesus in my life--not act as His personal judge and jury. I need people to care more about my true spiritual state more than about being right or arguing their point. Again, I think there is a problem and we do need to address it. I am just asking for us to think about how we do that. Asking yourself, “What is my motive for speaking up?” Is it to just be ‘right,’ Or is it for redemption?” If it is truly for redemption, what is the best way to bring about that redemption?
I am still fleshing out my thoughts. If you care to continue the dialogue here, please comment below. I will also try to post again on this topic more fully. Just know that if I engage you here or in person, it's out of love. For now, I'm going to enjoy my weekend. Hope you do as well!